Relationships are making for sharing life with others in another way sharing life with others is the basis of a relationship.Our topic is "
5 KEYS TO MAINTAINING A RELATIONSHIP"
1 Encourage your partner Goals- Many people loose their goal while they are engaging in a relationship. Unfortunately, their partner did not mind or some are dominated to loose his/her goal. It is a harmful thing in a relationship. Staying together is not a relation, encourage your partner to accomplish his/her goal. So Know your partner dream/goal/ ambition and help him/her to accomplish it. Encouragement gives energy to your partner as well as your relation. It moves to next level like your relation will be a healthy relation, increasing respect to each other. The Relationship is a responsibility towards both. It shall be handle with care otherwise it shall come to end.
2 Intimacy – It is consist of 2 types. one is physical intimacy and another is mental intimacy. These both elements have importance in their own sphere. It is key to unlock your bad patch. Physical Intimacy is an essential. It is a form of expression.It is neither sign of complicity but also a way to get security. It is not mere about sexuality. Physical intimacy helps a couple to increase bonds. It helps to maintain self-esteem too. Kissing, hugging are an example of physical intimacy.
Man makes a relation to fulfilling his/her mental need. Mental intimacy strengthens couple’s bonds. Man can share his emotions to another through a relationship. Today we are losing such thing in relationships so divorce cases are increasing day by day. There are 90% relationship hinges on Mental intimacy. Mental intimacy creates very close emotional and affective connection between two people in a relationship. Caressing, sensual words are the example of Mental Intimacy.
3 keep Respect to Each other’s privacy zone – Everyone has right of privacy and in most matters, people enter in another’s private zone which is not good in a relationship. People becomes personal they are crossed their line unknowingly and many relationships end due to it and it is wonder people do not understand such thing. While relattionships start to identify your partner’s private zone which he/she does not share. Man does not share his private zone to any other person though such person is his family members,wife,girlfriend,boyfriend,husband etc because it is such place on which he/she feels secure and want to spend some time with himself or herself.
4 The sense of humor – Relationships has many ups & downs. In a relationship.Man becomes serious and discreet. In a consequence, he loses his ability sense of humor. The sense of humor is the best quality because of it relationships turns into interesting factor. It is ok to laugh at absurdities and ridiculous behavior sometimes. It does not mean that you don’t care. Humour makes things easy, friendly and comfortable in a relationship. Humour is an attracting tool to attract a partner in a new relationship. Humour can be overcome awkwardness or embarrassment that arises during the process of getting know each other. It can make strong bonds between both partners.
5 forgive others and forgive yourself- In a relationship Forgive is a powerful tool because it helps us not to hold a grudge or hate towards your loving one. I remember one though,“If we really want to love we must learn to forgive”. It’s one of the hardest things to do in a relationship is forgiving your partner if they have done something to upset you. It is best test of your relationship when you are feeling angry or betrayed or disappointed, the idea of forgiving someone can feel a little bit like giving in. Forgive creates a safe space to deepen personal exploration. Research shows that forgiveness is one of the keys to emotional intimacy. The relationship gets stronger when both are willing to forgive each other. In accordance with Ben Greenhalgh,”Forgiveness is a sign that the person who has wronged you means more to you than the wrong they have dealt”. So forgive others and yourself.
Thank you.....
UNDERSTANDING
(Missing Link) IN A RELATIONSHIP
Is it
possible to survive in a relationship without understanding? Obiviously answer is
No Understaanding is a core part of every relationship.I think you understand
our topic.That’s right ‘Power of
Understanding.’
As rightly
sometime we experience that, ‘little things affect at large’. Is it right or
not,let’s see:
Kelly:hello,baby..
Simon:hello,dear
Kelly so tell me,what is special today
Kelly:
Nothing, I missed you so call you.
Simon: ok
Can I call you later due to some work.?
Kelly(angry):
This is regular answer to hear don’t you have another thing to say.
Simon:
sorry dear but I am helpless..
Kelly: ok,its
my mistake to call you
Simon:
darling…try to understand. I am at work
Kelly: You
are not alone to work .I have also work.
Simon: (now
angry) I know that but what is your problem? You always call me at work.
Kelly: You
do not love me, care me
Simon: I
have work and don have time to talk..
Kelly: Are
you avoiding me?
Simon: Lets
talk later (he cut the phone)
There was
conversation between husband and wife. What was the problem between them?
There was
one missing link between them is lack of understanding.If Kelly understands
Simon or Simon understands Kelly there
will be smooth and amicable conversation between them but she could not ready
hear and understand anything. Alike this we sometime do not understand our
partner that what is he/she facing a situation.In above conversation Kelly wanted
simon’s emotional support so that she called him but he failed to understand to
Kelly.
Other side
of this story is,they both are right at their side. Understanding is hidden
power of a relationship mostly people take as trivial thing.It is like a
weapon. Understanding is an essential in developing the relation. It leads
to higher level. Understanding delivers
an opportunity to us to identify our relation status.In simple words
understanding is different from wisdom.and it is ability of mind to apprehend
and realiaze the relation of ideas to
eachother. We can say, it is unwriiten law in world of a relationship.If we do understand
our partner (Father,Mother, Brother,Sister,Wife etc) we will save our relation.
It is like
key to unlock relations block. Understanding helps to maintain a relationship. In a relationship people want some things i.e
love,security,understanding etc. Every one has to understand their partner’s
(Father,Mother, Brother,Sister,Wife etc) feelings. Understanding is more
important than love. Love is not enough. Relation without understanding will
wilt like flower without water.
Parents
help their children by understanding their emotional and developmental changes
as they grown up. It is not always to easy to understand different shades of a
relationship but understanding does. It is all about willingness to understand
to another.
Many
relationships in society are rupturing
due to lack of understanding. Sometime we faced such effect upon our
families,friendships,ourselves etc. Starting anything is easy but understands
it quite difficult.If we take care our relation with understanding,such
relationship would be lasting long.
Lets take
an example:-
One day a Man
asked a question to Lord Buddha,’what is difference between I like You And I
Love You?’
Lord Budhha
Smiled and beautifully answered ,”When you Like a flower, you just pluck it But
When you
love a flower,you water it daily”
Moral:- One
who understand it,understands life.
It is an
easy to hurt someone but understand his/her feelings is a quite difficult. Understanding
is deeper than love,Everyone love you but very few understand you so that mere to
love someone is not enough.you can love your partner with understanding, It
will be your best relationship ever made before. your partner will start to
respect you and love you more.
Most of us
are taught us how to behave.how to speak,aren’t taught us to understand
him/her. In other words well adjusted couple works and learns to understand one
another;s needs.sometime our ego came in way relationship but Its our
responsibility to set aside it with understanding. Understanding is emotional
glue that hold all close relationship together.
In the conclution
we learn that all relationship that are meant to flourish in a healthy way,must stress understanding just
as much ,if not are, than love.
Thank you….
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